“Love, you know, is a funny thing; but the funniest thing about love is you never can tell if it is love, until you start to doubt it. – Unknown
What do you do when you feel that all the love that you’ve been pouring out isn’t being reflected back at you? When you say “I love you” and they say it back but you just don’t feel it. They say they miss you terribly every time you’re apart but they don’t really make the effort to figure out a way to spend time with you. What do you do when they say “you mean the world me” and they can’t bear to lose you but you seem to be drifting farther apart? What are you supposed to think when you used to furiously text and email each other into the night but now you barely get an email a week? How are you supposed to feel when every time you talk on the phone and they say “I’m going to call you right back” but they never do? You wear your heart on your sleeve knowing there may be a chance that you’d be taken advantage of and maybe heart-broken, but you take the chance anyway. Now it seems that your worst fears are being realized as it seem they are starting to care less and less about you.
You try to convince yourself, “Relationships have “cold” moments and this is probably just one of them”, but that lingering doubt still creeps and wiggles its way into the back of your mind. They’ve told you how they feel about you and you’ve done the same, so it seems everyone is on the same page, but why do you still feel this way? You’ve asked those closest to you for their advice and they tell you, “everything’s going to be all right”, “you worry too much”, “you’re over thinking it “, and so on and so on. Maybe you are over-reacting. Maybe you are thinking about it too much. You don’t want to jeopardize a good thing because of your insecurities, but you can’t shake that gut feeling that something just isn’t right.
The mind has a funny way of kicking into overdrive when dread and despair surface, fueling our worst fears and leading us to believe that the worst has, or is about to happen. It’s easy for someone on the outside to dismiss your fears and to tell you that everything is going to be fine, but rarely does it quell your mind. It’s a natural occurrence for doubt to reveal itself in relationships from time to time, it’s all in how you handle it. So…what do YOU do?