Monogamy? Please..

“Monogamy is ideal as a standard, but if you look around you, it’s not the end result.” – Justen Michael”

“Monogamy is realistic, but it’s not practical.” That’s how it all started. That one little comment fueled a lively and heated debated that lasted in to the early morning hours.

Monogamy is possible in theory, but in reality, it’s just so bloody difficult! It goes against our biology. Don’t believe me? Take a trip to the mall one day, find a nice spot with lots of mall traffic, and just sit there and observe. Before long you’ll notice that everyone is pretty much checking everyone else out. Men are critiquing women, and vice versa. Even those mall browsing with a significant other can be caught eying the opposite (or even the same) sex from time to time. I’m even willing to bet that while you’re there, you’ll also come across a few nice, attractive and tasty morsels that you would more than love to get your hand around. However, you may not act on those urges because society has beaten us over the head and forced us to frown upon anything other than a monogamous relationship. Why? There are so many gorgeous and appealing pieces of eye candy out there and we’re only allowed to have one? MADNESS!

Why is monogamy so impractical? It’s like going to a buffet. There are so many delicious and appetizing choices that you want to sample everything, but you don’t. Not because you don’t want to, but because you don’t want to look like a greedy pig or get looked at with disgust. So, what do we do? We get a plate, fill it with some things we like, and enjoy it. Then we get something else. Once we’re done with that plate, we get another, and another, until we’ve eventually had enough, or we take a break just long enough to regain our appetite.

Ironically, dating works pretty much the same way. So many choices and so many decisions. You can choose someone who seems to satisfy you, or you can cycle through different choices until you find someone who suits you best. You even have the option of juggling more than one person and then end up finding out that you’ve probably bitten off more than you can chew.

Monogamy is not for everyone. Some people are afraid of being monogamous. Being tied to one person for any considerable length of time is a frightening prospect for them. Why would anyone relegate themselves to one person until death, when there’s enough play out there for a lifetime of fun? Some try to exploit the loophole of being monogamous by having open relationship, but open relationships can be dangerous. Open relationships, like all relationships, are subject to emotional attachments, by some or all parties, carrying the potential of fucking it up for everyone involved.

Either way, no matter what decision you make, it’s still YOUR decision. No one has the right to dictate how you live your life. Live your life in a way that pleases you, just as long as it isn’t hurting yourself or anyone else.



4 responses to “Monogamy? Please..

  1. Now, you HAVE to know I have ALL kinds of opinions about this! LoL

    First, the only person Who has the right to dictate our lives is God. We do have free choice and are welcome to do whatever we like with our lives, but that isn’t what He wants for us. He wants us to trust and obey Him. To believe that He has our best interests at heart.

    Second, considering sex outside of marriage is a sin, I am pretty sure monogamy is His plan. Not something that is simply beaten into our heads by society.

    • So what you’re saying is he gave us free choice, but he doesn’t want us to choose how we live our lives? (Just kidding, I get what you’re saying) I don’t want to start another firestorm of comments but if that’s the case why did men have so many wives back in Bible days? It’s not like I’m disagreeing with you, but this is a topic that can go on forever lol.

  2. My feeling is that monogamy is a resistance to carnal desires. It is the acknowledgment that one person will treat us with the love and respect we deserve, while the others will just use us and toss us aside. Since there is a biological need for sex with many different women for (heterosexual) men, they have more trouble caring whether or not they are tossed aside. These men don’t desire one relationship that may not completely satisfy their sexual desires but satisfies their need for love; they, instead, desire many relationships with individual women who satisfy different needs. One reason monogamy is impractical is our society is becoming more interested in pleasing our carnal desires, seeking an escape from their lives through any means. Ultimately, monogamy is impractical because it asks one half of our species to go against their free will; and, some Weiner’s just aren’t that strong.

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